I am not an active blogger but your thoughts spoke to me. Our son is 11. He started middle school this year and I’ve just recently started noticing changes in him. He has always been such a tender little boy. Always listening and very caring towards his little sister. But just recently I’m realizing that he is growing up and he is not that little boy anymore. My prayer is that as my husband and I teach and nurture him, that he will obey us out of respect and love and not fear. Not because he doesnt want to get in trouble but because he wants to honor his parents and God. So I totally understand your concerns and wanted to hopefully encourage you to keep praying for your boys knowing that God has a plan for their lives, continue to rest in this knowledge.