Connecting Daily – Married Life

If you feel that the spark has gone out of your marriage, I seriously encourage you to take a deep, long look at your schedule….is there room for just the two of you in it?

If you answered no, then you need to rethink your schedule.  Even if it is just a quiet hour in the evening where the two of you can “hang out” together and chat, read the Bible, talk about the day and even discuss any family matters that need to be talked about.

Much of your relationship with your husband will actually be built more by the little everyday moments of connection that the two of you have.  Maintaining a connection of peaceful communication is such a huge element for couples. When you’re not in the habit of doing something (even if you once were), it can be terribly hard to change.  Little things though can make all the difference in the world.

One of the little things that my hubby and I do to connect sometimes when things feel especially chaotic is to join the other one on the couch.  We have one recliner, so typically one of us sits on the couch in the living room when we’re all hanging out.  It’s kind of fun (though unbelievably simple) when one of us is sitting on the couch and the other one clears a path in order to sit next to each other.

If our kids are up, this can be especially challenging…and rewarding, since the littlest three are always covering and surrounding the parent on the couch.  I know it seems terribly silly and simple, but it is a great way for us to connect.

The point is, connecting with your husband on a daily basis isn’t a huge deal!  It doesn’t take a ton of planning, it’s realizing you have a moment and taking full advantage of it.

Giving him a random hug.  Looking in his eyes and placing your hand on his arm as he tells you about his day when he returns home from work (can I see a show of hands for all the ladies that tend to be doing housework or finishing up dinner when this conversation happens? not a lot of communication and eye contact there).  Having a special dessert for him “just because”.  Sitting by him on the couch.  All simple but effective ways to connect with each other if even for a moment.

Don’t go through a day, or especially days on end where you don’t connect as a couple.  It’s shockingly easy to do and get in the habit of.

Would you go through an entire day without interacting with one of your (non-adult) children?  How would that make you feel?  How much more should you nurture the lifelong relationship you have with the man you married?

Just a thought.