So many moms look like they have it all together. They have the perfect life, the perfect car, the perfect kids, the perfect home … or do they????
Do we really know the woman we are pitting ourselves against? Usually the answer is no! Because if we did we would realize one of two things -she’s just like us and simply has a knack or gift for making things look great or she’s really shallow and focuses only on material gain.
This is reality. I don’t mean the second one as a slam and more often than not the woman you see that “has it all together” is the former of the two and is totally worth getting to know and hang out with. We are all human, no one can keep up a façade forever. So for the second woman you really should pity her because little will be left when her material possessions and friendships are gone.
The point is … THEY ARE NOT BETTER THAN YOU!
If you guessed that this is from a “been there, done that” perspective, you’re right. I am fortunate enough to have many women in my life that I have known since they were little girls (emphasis on “they”, I was several years older … am still several years older than “they” ). These girls would look to many people like they have it all together, and in many ways they do, but if you get to know them you will see and learn two things immediately: First, they LOVE their family with everything they have and totally put them first … Second, they are just like you and sometimes their kids drive them nuts and the housework makes them crazy.
Then there are women that I met through church or a mommy group and thought they were amazing! Well, I still think they are amazing, but in a different way … they too are just like me and I am honored to have them in my life. They are dynamic, energetic and creative but, the bottom line is they just want to be in God’s will and serve their family and friends.
Yes, there’s the other woman, that once you get to know her, you realize that she does have an amazing house that’s almost always clean, and kids that are always dressed perfectly and she is always wearing the most current style with the perfect haircut and manicure. So what’s different about this woman? Even though you would see ALL of the typical flaws, imperfections and realities if you got close enough, she won’t let you, you will remain an arm’s-length away. They maintain the perfect façade and don’t like to let people look deep enough to see the reality (they are just like the rest of us).
So once again it is all about perspective! How we perceive another human being is so often not correct at first glance. So dig a little deeper, don’t be intimidated. Most of the women you meet will be those amazing women that you thank God for placing in your life! Yes, occasionally, very occasionally the shallow ones come along, but when that happens it is refreshing to know that they aren’t the norm and in God’s eyes there really is no one better than you 🙂 .
He loves you as you are and will meet you where you are! If you need him he’s truly only a short reach away. So if you are having one of those moments in life where you don’t feel like you just add up because you are comparing yourself to the next mom over … stop, and try to take a look at the situation through God’s eyes. You will see the truth – you are loved, accepted and treasured!
Be Blessed!